Rules Of Engagement – A Conversation on family
Relationships (Intentional): Proverbs 4:7 “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” KJV
a. Speak your spouse Love Language –
b. Respect, Cherish and Honor each other (i.e. Date Night, Quality Time)
c. Communication (Spouse, God) –
Also communication with God. Psalm 139:14 in the Passion Translation: “I thank you for making me so mysteriously complex!”
2. Children (Teenagers): Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off the way they should go, end even when they are old they will not turn from it.” NIV
a. Instill your values –
b. Be a parent, not a friend –
c. Dating – If you and your spouse are modeling dating, how wonderful that is for them to see. Casual, Special, Steady dating
3. Finance: Matthew 6:21 “Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” NLT
a. Identify who has the best skill set to manage the finances (Stewardship). Extend grace to each other. (10% Tithes, pay yourself (Savings), everything else)
b. Be in agreement on major purchases, whatever that dollar amount is in your household. Don’t just come home with a new vehicle that will impact the family plan, it can be a cause of tension in the marriage. Proverbs 21:5 GNT Plan carefully and you will have plenty; if you act too quickly, you will never have enough.
c. Transparency of finance: We have access to each other’s accounts.
Examples: Splitting Meals; coupons for all purchases, cut off cable when we had a car payment and was paying for one that we no longer had.