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Masculinity ~ Masculine Friend

Many men are living lives of Solitude

  • Studies show linked to depression/suicide


If asked - We have good excuses to be of why we are not pursuing friendship


Excuse #1 - No time and energy (Chart on Screen)

  • 3 constants - Work, family, Friends



Excuse #2 - I don’t need friends

  • People are stressful, I ‘m better off alone


Excuse #3 - I have friends at work

  • Friends of convenience disappear during times of inconvenience


Can you name 2-3 people, who are not family, that you can call on if you are in a time of need

or can you name 2-3 people who would call on you in a time of need?


You need others around you to be the best you

Others need you around them to be the best them


Relational Investing

  • We are to invest in people and allow people to invest in us


Matthew 25:24-30 MSG

24-25 “The servant given one talent said, ‘Master, I know you have high standards and hate careless ways, that you demand the best and make no allowances for error. I was afraid I might disappoint you, so I found a good hiding place and secured your money. Here it is, safe and sound down to the last cent.’

26-27 “The master was furious. ‘That’s a terrible way to live! It’s criminal to live cautiously like that! If you knew I was after the best, why did you do less than the least? The least you could have done would have been to invest the sum with the bankers, where at least I would have gotten a little interest.

28-30 “‘Take the one talent and give it to the one who risked the most. And get rid of this “play-it-safe” who won’t go out on a limb.


The point is not that he did’t gain anything, but that he didn’t even try


Hebrews 10:24-25 CSB

And let us watch out for one another to provoke love and good works, not neglecting to gather together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging each other, and all the more as you see the day approaching.


2 Tips on being a relational Investor

Double up

  • Find something you enjoy doing and invite others to do it with you


Double down

  • Fight the slide of allowing your schedule to rule you like. 
  • Make the margin you need.


You need others around you to be the best you

Others need you around them to be the best them


John 15:15

15 I do not call you servants anymore, because a servant doesn’t know what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything I have heard from my Father.