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Navigating Change

Your Problems Are My Problems


Here is a truth about life that you and I both know, but you may not have ever thought about before...


The Further you are from a problem, the easier the solutions seems to be

* Examples

  • Giving advice vs following your own advice
  • Thinking you know how to raise kids vs actually raising kids
  • Home improvement plans vs actually doing home improvement


Why is this…?

* When we are close to a problem we know...


>Because of the “Details"

* You know more the closer you are


>Because of “Emotions”

* You are attached to things/people


When we judge someone’s problems from far away, we are doing so with a lot of “Assumptions”

* We Assume we know what is really going on

* We assume we know what we would do in that situation

* We Assume we have the right answer 


But assumption are often not base on facts, they are rooted in your personal perception of reality

* They are base on your past and experiences, which differ from others

* Just because you feel something is right, doesn’t make it right


When someone has a problem, we tend to….

* Shouting at each other vs Listening

* Highlighting your problems vs solving my own


To understand someone’s problems, you must be close enough to them to understand their experience of the world

*Good Parents do this:

* They do not raise each child the same

  * Different Genders

  * Different Personalities

  * Different Dreams


The Further you are from a problem, the easier the solutions seems to be


>>Paul gives us insight on how we are to help those around us... 


Galatians 6

1 Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.


2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. 


>>In our culture, we have an unwritten rule:

Your problems should stay your problems unless they cause me to have a problem


But as Jesus followers, it is our responsibility; our calling to step into the messy place of other people problems


Our mantra should be: Your problems are my problems

* When we see someone hurting, jump to their aid

* When we see someone mourning, we cry with them

* When we see someone struggling, we help them along


So what does it take to make your problems my problems…


Galatians 6

3 If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.

4 Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.


The first thing it takes to make your problems my problems is...

1 - Humility

<Example> The One-Upper

* Always having done something bigger and better...


Here is the difference between pride and humility…


Galatians 6

7 Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. 8 Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. 


2 - Right Motives (Right Reasons)


Did you know that you can help people for all the wrong reasons?

* To gain power over that person

* To gain influence with others

* To prove that you were right/better


Never forget that God sees your "why" regardless of how good what you are doing is.

* Is it to bring glory to God

* It is born out of genuine love for others


Galatians 6

9 So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. 10 Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.


3 - Determination

<Example> The excitement of Starting vs the Pain of finishing


Those who achieve the most know that finishing well is more important that starting well


We must be determined to SHARE the burdens of others

* Cannot wait around for the right opportunity - We make opportunity

* We search for hurting people, not wait for them to come to us


Our church’s mission is helping DISCONNECTED people find follow and be like Jesus

* You must go to where they are, not wait for them to catch up with you


Matthew 16

24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow me. 25 If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it. 26 And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? 27 For the Son of Man will come with his angels in the glory of his Father and will judge all people according to their deeds.